Hi! I’m Tina!
I am a Relational & Life Development Coach
Build your life skills so you can enjoy relational health and flourish.
I offer a unique blend of coaching, combining the biblically-based, evidence-backed growth principles of Dr. John Townsend with the relational health framework of Terry Real. As a personal growth and relationship coach, I help individuals achieve their goals and live the life they desire. I lead TLP Groups (Townsend Leadership Program), Growth Groups, and Relationship Workshops, uniquely integrating both models for an effective approach to growth. Whether you’re seeking personal development, career alignment, or stronger connections, I’m here to guide you with empathy, insight, and proven strategies.
GROUP COACHING
‘Group…is a mirror that reflects our own struggles, allowing us to see ourselves in the stories of others.’ ― Irvin Yalom
My approach involves exploring places of disconnection and wounding, and to help you to create a life that is deeply connected, meaningful and purposeful. Through group coaching you will gently dive into these elements in a safe, secure, and profound, life-changing way.
Experience exponential growth within a supportive group setting. Join one of my coaching groups, which convene for a full day every month throughout a year. You’ll be warmly welcomed into my Santa Cruz home, where we gather around the kitchen table and cozy living room to share beautiful homemade meals, connect deeply, learn together, and process your story. Weather permitting, we also enjoy contemplative walks along the beach, enhancing the depth of your growth points.
My groups are small. The connection and growth is deep. Lives are changed. Join me.
NEW GROUPS FORMING – APPLY TODAY
- January 2025 Start Dates
- Saturday TLP Group – 1 space remaining
- Monday Evening TLP Group – limited space
INDIVIDUAL COACHING
I am a Relational & Life Development Coach. I bring the ‘relational’ and ‘purpose’ together because your relational capacity is key to being successful in every aspect of life. Beyond providing tools, I help you identify the relational blindspots that get in the way of thriving in your personal life and living in your purpose.
I offer individual coaching over Zoom, in the comfort of my home, at a local coffee shop or while strolling along the beach – whichever setting works best for you.
Let’s discover what you don’t know you don’t know, and get some tools that will take you where you dream of going. Build those relationships. Transform your inner world. Deepen your connection to God. Live more fully in your unique and wonderful purpose.
RELATIONSHIP WORKSHOP
Orange County Workshop
Beginning January 2025
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- Six 4-hour sessions on Sunday afternoons
- Meets once per month over 6 months
- 1/5, 2/9, 3/9, 4/6, 5/4, 6/8
- Includes one couple’s coaching session per month
- Runs from January to June
- Maximum of 5 couples for an intimate, focused setting
- Cost $1500 per person or $3000 per couple
Topics include:
- Skills to build your relationships
- How you show up in your closest relationships
- Relational mindfulness
- Redeeming our stories through relationship
- Losing & winning strategies in relationships
- How to take a time out when you don’t want to
- How to move from rupture to repair
- Recovering from relational trauma
- How to get what you want
Each person I coach has their own unique goals. Whether you are facing life transitions, feeling stuck, lacking healthy relationships, have unmet goals, personal struggles or are unclear about your purpose in life, let’s embark on the journey together.
My Coaching Style
I believe the guiding principles of thriving in all areas of life are made up of the four capacities of character; bonding, separation, integration, and mutuality.
- Bonding – The capacity to engage in deep, vulnerable, fulfilling relationships that fuel your life
- Separation – The capacity to be defined, confront in healthy ways, communicate effectively and know your value
- Integration – The capacity to make friends with reality, resolve perfectionism, be skilled at adaptation, and avoid entitlement attitudes
- Mutuality – The capacity to relate as a mutual adult, know your unique purpose and live a fulfilling life
- The ‘father’ of Attachment Theory, John Bowlby, said this about needing connection for growth to happen: “Intimate attachments to other human beings are the hub around which a person’s life revolves, not only as an infant or a toddler or a schoolchild but throughout adolescence and years of maturity as well, and on into old age. From these intimate attachments a person draws strength and enjoyment of life and, through what he contributes, gives strength and enjoyment to others. These are matters about which current science and traditional wisdom are at one.”
I am a Relational & Life Development Coach. I have worked with people of all ages, husbands and wives, parents and adult children, business and church leaders, entrepreneurs and family businesses, for over a decade.
I believe the best place to discover what you ‘don’t know you don’t know’ is in the context of a safe group. Leading coaching groups in my home is my favorite thing I do. I also offer one-on-one coaching and lead relationship workshops.
My coaching began decades ago around my kitchen table over shared loaves of fresh baked sourdough. I use my life experience in conjunction with Dr. John Townsend’s Growth Model and Terry Real’s Relational Life Skills in assisting those who want to deepen their self-awareness, build meaningful relationships, and learn to manage their lives with purpose and intention. I lead year long Group Coaching cohorts that will provide a safe and supportive space for YOU to explore your potential, cultivate your strengths, and learn how to connect better with yourself, others and God. And there is still the added delight of gathering around good food.
I live in Santa Cruz with James, my sweet husband of 42 years. We have 4 thriving adult children. I love to create through writing, baking and hospitality. My favorite thing is to jump in the ocean and swim when the waves are not mighty.
“Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert”. Isaiah 43:18-19
