Tina's Words

Oh boy. Don't we all harbor a secret hope that one day, we’ll find someone who will mend the cracks left by our childhood wounds? We dream of someone who will give us what we didn’t receive growing up, someone who will heal the lingering & ever present unmet longings. Yet, we typically fall in love with someone who ends up being perfectly equipped by their own life-stories to bring those same old patterns to the surface. So here we are, in our deepest & closest relationships, finding...

Are you ready to strengthen your capacity to handle life’s challenges, while at the same time building deep, meaningful relationships? As a relationship and growth coach, I work with two transformative, neuroscience-based models that have been life-changing for me and many others. The first model is a scientifically researched and validated growth framework designed to help you navigate and overcome life's challenges with resilience and purpose. The second is a relational model that helps you...

As I reflect on the closing chapter of the year before stepping into the new one, I find it helpful to contemplate these two questions: Firstly, what is the challenge that I handled well in the past year? And then, what fueled my ability to do so? Perhaps, for you, it was letting go of needing others to feel good about you in order to feel good about yourself. The fuel that enabled you to develop this capacity may have been surrounding yourself with people who accept you for who you are and...

Over the last few writings, I have been talking about the developmental tasks we all accomplish as we grow from infants into adults. (You may read them here) These four components of development - Attachment, Boundaries, Integration, Mutuality - essentially support us throughout life just like the trunk of a tree holds up the branches, produces fruit and keeps it from tipping over when storms come. If we are underdeveloped in any of these four areas, it will show up. We will have limited...