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Finding Clarity in Connection
Finding Clarity through Connection... Each person who walks into my coaching practice carries their own unique challenges and goals. Yet, there’s one constant thread that weaves through every story: when we are truly seen, the narratives we carry—the ones shaping how we approach our struggles and dreams—begin to change. And in that change, clarity emerges. It’s like standing on a foggy path, unable to see the horizon ahead. The answers, the way forward, are already within us. But that...
Transforming Old Wounds in Our Closest Relationships
Oh boy. Don't we all harbor a secret hope that one day, we’ll find someone who will mend the cracks left by our childhood wounds? We dream of someone who will give us what we didn’t receive growing up, someone who will heal the lingering & ever present unmet longings. Yet, we typically fall in love with someone who ends up being perfectly equipped by their own life-stories to bring those same old patterns to the surface. So here we are, in our deepest & closest relationships, finding...
Two Life Models That Transform
Are you ready to strengthen your capacity to handle life’s challenges, while at the same time building deep, meaningful relationships? As a relationship and growth coach, I work with two transformative, neuroscience-based models that have been life-changing for me and many others. The first model is a scientifically researched and validated growth framework designed to help you navigate and overcome life's challenges with resilience and purpose. The second is a relational model that helps you...
Reflecting on This Year and Embracing the Next
As I reflect on the closing chapter of the year before stepping into the new one, I find it helpful to contemplate these two questions: Firstly, what is the challenge that I handled well in the past year? And then, what fueled my ability to do so? Perhaps, for you, it was letting go of needing others to feel good about you in order to feel good about yourself. The fuel that enabled you to develop this capacity may have been surrounding yourself with people who accept you for who you are and...
Relational Nutrients for Our Most Unlovable Parts
Relational Nutrients in our deepest places are the key to thriving. I just returned from co-leading a workshop on this topic in Southern California, and thought I would share it with you! In Psalm 139:23-24, we encounter a powerful and transformative message that carries a profound truth: "Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!" This is an invitation to be seen, not through the lens of...
Growing Strong Through Attachment, Boundaries, Integration, and Mutuality
Over the last few writings, I have been talking about the developmental tasks we all accomplish as we grow from infants into adults. (You may read them here) These four components of development - Attachment, Boundaries, Integration, Mutuality - essentially support us throughout life just like the trunk of a tree holds up the branches, produces fruit and keeps it from tipping over when storms come. If we are underdeveloped in any of these four areas, it will show up. We will have limited...