The Quality of our Relationships Determine the Quality of our Lives
I offer a unique blend of coaching, combining the biblically-based, evidence-backed growth principles of Dr. John Townsend with the relational health framework of Terry Real. As a relational & life development coach, I help individuals develop & achieve their goals so they can live a meaningful. I lead TLP Groups (Townsend Leadership Program), Growth Groups, and Relationship Workshops, uniquely integrating both models for an effective approach to growth. Whether you’re seeking personal development, career alignment, or stronger connections, I’m here to guide you with empathy, insight, and proven strategies.
GROUP COACHING
‘Group…is a mirror that reflects our own struggles, allowing us to see ourselves in the stories of others.’ ― Irvin Yalom
My approach involves exploring places of disconnection and wounding, and to help you to create a life that is deeply connected, meaningful and purposeful. Through group coaching you will gently dive into these elements in a safe, secure, and profound, life-changing way.
Experience exponential growth within a supportive group setting. Join one of my coaching groups, which convene for a full day every month throughout a year. You’ll be warmly welcomed into my Santa Cruz home, where we gather around the kitchen table and cozy living room to share beautiful homemade meals, connect deeply, learn together, and process your story. Weather permitting, we also enjoy reflective walks along the beach, enhancing the depth of your growth points.
My groups are small. The connection and growth is deep. Lives are changed. Join me.
2026 COHORT – IN SESSION
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- Friday TLP Group
- Monday evening TLP Group
LEADERSHIP & ORGANIZATIONAL DEVELOPMENT
I partner with small businesses, churches, and nonprofits to help leaders develop the character capacities and relational intelligence (RQ) needed to build healthy, resilient teams and sustainable cultures.
Whether you’re looking to strengthen your leadership team, improve communication and trust, or make a long-term investment in developing your leaders, here are a few ways we can partner together:
TPRAT Teams Workshops – A team assessment and workshop experience designed to measure and strengthen your organization’s Relational Intelligence (RQ).
Monthly Leadership Development – Monthly half-day on-site or off-site sessions designed for teams of 6–8 key leaders who want to strengthen leadership capacity and cultivate healthier teams.
Why work with me to build your teams?
My work is grounded in Dr. John Townsend’s evidence-based Growth Model and Relational Intelligence (RQ), which has been used for decades to develop leaders, teams, and organizations. Rather than focusing solely on skills or personality, this model develops the relational capacities required to meet the demands of reality—resulting in stronger leaders, healthier teams, and more resilient cultures.
RELATIONSHIP WORKSHOP
Relationship Workshop Series
Beginning October 2025
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- 4 Wednesday Evenings 6:00 – 9:00pm
- October 1, 8, 22, 29
- Location: my Santa Cruz home
- A light meal will be served
- Maximum of 6 couples for an intimate, focused setting
- Cost $165 per person or $325 per couple
Topics include:
- How to get more of what you want
- How you show up in your closest relationships
- Relational mindfulness
- Redeeming our stories through relationship
- Losing & winning strategies in relationships
- How to take a time out when you don’t want to
- How to move from rupture to repair
- Recovering from relational trauma
OTHER WORKSHOPS TEACH SKILLS ~ DURING THIS WORKSHOP WE WILL DEAL WITH THE PART OF YOU THAT WON’T USE THEM
Each person I coach has their own unique goals. Whether you are facing life transitions, feeling stuck, desiring healthier relationships, have unmet goals, personal struggles or are unclear about your purpose in life…let’s embark on the journey together!
My Coaching Style
I believe the guiding principles of thriving in all areas of life are made up of the four capacities of character; bonding, separation, integration, and mutuality.
- Attachment – The capacity to engage in deep, vulnerable, fulfilling relationships that fuel your life
- Separation – The capacity to be defined, confront in healthy ways, communicate effectively and know your value
- Integration – The capacity to make friends with reality, resolve perfectionism, be skilled at adaptation, and avoid entitlement attitudes
- Adulthood – The capacity to relate as a mutual adult, know your unique purpose and live a fulfilling life
- The ‘father’ of Attachment Theory, John Bowlby, said this about needing connection for growth to happen: “Intimate attachments to other human beings are the hub around which a person’s life revolves, not only as an infant or a toddler or a schoolchild but throughout adolescence and years of maturity as well, and on into old age. From these intimate attachments a person draws strength and enjoyment of life and, through what he contributes, gives strength and enjoyment to others. These are matters about which current science and traditional wisdom are at one.”
How can you grow your personal, relational & professional life? With grace & truth & the connection of others over time. THIS is what we do in my TLP groups. Join one today!
I am a Relational & Life Development Coach. I have worked with people of all ages, husbands and wives, parents and adult children, business and church leaders, entrepreneurs and family businesses, for over a decade.
I believe the best place to discover what you ‘don’t know you don’t know’ is in the context of a safe group. Leading coaching groups in my home is my favorite thing I do. I also offer one-on-one coaching and lead relationship workshops.
My coaching began decades ago around my kitchen table over shared loaves of fresh baked sourdough. I use my life experience in conjunction with Dr. John Townsend’s Growth Model and Terry Real’s Relational Life Skills in assisting those who want to deepen their self-awareness, build meaningful relationships, and learn to manage their lives with purpose and intention. I lead year long Group Coaching cohorts that will provide a safe and supportive space for YOU to explore your potential, cultivate your strengths, and learn how to connect better with yourself, others and God. And there is the added delight of gathering around good food.
I live in Santa Cruz with James, my sweet husband of 42 years. We have 4 thriving adult children. I love to create through writing, baking and hospitality. My favorite thing is to jump in the ocean and swim when the waves are not mighty.
“Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert”. Isaiah 43:18-19
