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The Courage to Be Vulnerable
Vulnerability was the topic of last month’s Group coaching session, and honestly, it was one of those topics that generated a lot of conversation and a lot of aha moments. So, what is vulnerability? Vulnerability is the willingness to reveal what is true about ourselves—our feelings, needs, struggles, weaknesses, and mistakes—in order to grow and create deeper, safer relationships. There are two realms in which vulnerability takes place in. Our professional world & our personal world....
Partner With Me to Build Relationally Intelligent (RQ) Leaders & Teams
Hi friends, As organizations grow, their greatest challenges are rarely technical—they’re relational. It is key to build healthy connected leaders who know how to build healthy, connected teams. I partner with small businesses, churches, and nonprofits to help leaders develop the character capacities and relational intelligence (RQ) needed to build healthy, resilient teams and sustainable cultures. Whether you're looking to strengthen your leadership team, improve communication and trust, or...
Forgiveness Isn’t About Them
The Work of Forgiveness Forgiveness is the act of canceling a debt that was owed to you. It’s choosing to release someone from what they “owe,” allowing the cost to fall on you. It sounds so simple — and yet, few things stretch our hearts quite like this. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was okay. It doesn’t minimize or erase the hurt. Anger, grief, or sadness is actually a necessary first step toward being able to forgive. It simply means we’ve decided to stop carrying it. We stop...
When “Trying Harder” Isn’t Working
There are times we simply need grit—to keep on keeping on, to push through the hard, to get to where we want to go. And then there are times when pushing harder, and flexing our get-stuff-done muscle, isn’t what we need to solve the problem. That’s what we explored in my last coaching group. Using Dr. John Townsend’s Growth Model, we looked at how we grow through doing and connecting. We need both—especially when working harder isn’t moving the needle. When something we’re trying to resolve...
Relational Mindfulness: Choosing Growth over Reactivity
Hello friends, As we step into this week, I want to share a thought on growth and connection. We’ve all had moments where we react more strongly than the situation calls for. I know I have! A comment stings, a tone of voice feels sharp, or someone pulls away—and suddenly our chest tightens, our pulse quickens, and before we even think, we’re fighting, shutting down, or scrambling to smooth things over so everyone feels better. This is our Adaptive Child at work. These knee-jerk reactions,...
Attuning to Others Begins with Attuning to Your Inner World
Hi friend, Ever left a conversation thinking, “That didn’t go how I wanted…” or “Why did I react like that?” or even, "Why did they react like that?" You're not alone. Here’s the thing: before we can truly attune to others — whether it’s a spouse, friend, colleague or child — we have to be attuned to ourselves. When we’re not, we miss the moment. We over-talk. We shut down. We don't read the room. We feel lonely. Attunement is like tuning an instrument. If I’m out of tune internally, I can’t...